“God, where were you?”
That’s the good version of the question, because you are still on speaking terms with the Lord.
But if this question is left unresolved, over time it becomes, “Where was God when __________ happened [I was raped, my child died, I was fired because of someone’s lies…]? You are no longer talking to God, you are now talking about him.
Later? Just silence. God, from your perspective, is no longer a player in everyday life.